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Originally Posted by SummerTime12
Would you bring it up to your T if you need to have fewer sessions because of money issues? Or just take a break/cut back without mentioning the reason? I don’t want my T to think I’m not wanting to put in the work anymore, but I also don’t want him to feel bad I’m having money issues just in case he would offer a discount or something like that. I don’t want him to think I’m telling him because I’m asking for a lower rate.
I’m feeling really torn about cutting back on therapy since I’m going through a lot right now, but I feel guilty for even hesitating because we’re barely making our mortgage. I feel selfish for wanting to keep going to my T every week when we’re struggling so much.
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Just say all of it? That you're worried he'll think you're asking for a lower rate but you don't want to cut back etc?
Regardless of the answer, not saying it I think will act as a barrier to your ability to continue therapy -- with or without taking a break?
I think a large part of it is trust -- if you've been working with him for a while, does he trust (including in his abilities to assess your 'character') that you're genuinely in a hole and not out to swindle him? Or, is he the sort that is more likely to get all kinds of weird and try to go strictly by the book when it comes to money?
He could say 'Yes' or he could say 'No' -- I think either way, I'd want to know where my therapist stands. To me, it's one of those is-this-really-a-relationship? junctures -- especially if you've been seeing him for a while.
That's not to say that if he says 'No', it's automatically a reflection of you -- it could be that he's been burnt in the past and so on and so forth.