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Originally Posted by guileless
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here today,
This concept in the article reminded me of Felican's positive experience. But it's supposedly a common theme in object relations oriented therapy that the therapist survive the internalized bad objects which is often followed by a positive trajectory. I do believe this to be true and wish it played out like this for clients.
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To me, object relations concepts don't match up with my experience very well in lots of ways. Maybe it's just my temperament, and the way I operate is different or something.
But the notion that my last therapist couldn't survive being the "bad object" seems relevant. I was definitely experiencing her that way. I could have turned that "off", in the way that I learned to do things in childhood, in order to "get along", but it was therapy, so -- I didn't.
If the therapists can't "survive" that, and it's a known hazard, . . .the whole profession is unethical in not addressing that somehow. They "know" the potential for harm is there -- can it be they just don't know how really awful and horrible and damaging the harm can be? Or just don't care.
As feileacan said, why should they? They can't feel it and it doesn't affect them.
That just seems so. . .awful. Not a world I like or want to live in. May be the way it is, in which case -- I'm glad I'm not in therapy any more. Maybe I can find some places in the world I like better.
And. . .things change. Surgeons don't routinely perform tonsillectomies on 3-year-olds any more. Certainly not the way they did it 68 years ago, holding the child down kicking and screaming for their life while they slam an ether/anesthesia mask over their face.
The "therapy" of tomorrow, if still around, may be very different.