I wasn’t sure if what I did was passive aggresssive. I suppose it was also being honest because I didn’t want to see him only to be frustrated.

You’re so right. We say things to family, things we would never say to friends or acquaintances, because we feel they are intimate and that causes fights. Is it faulty thinking to believe intimacy is expressing your true feelings and expecting the other person to care, even put you over themselves?

We had a nice dinner date together. I feel closer to him and more optimistic. It’s my turn to bring it now.