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Originally Posted by Tucson
I want you to consider what I am about to say. If you tell me that you disagree, I will respect that. I think the reasons you are coming up with for you to be the one to move out is just a rationalization for avoiding conflict. Having him stay there will only cost you more money. He would knowingly be taking advantage of you. Since you will not be there, he can invite women over for sex. How long do you expext this to go on? You would be funding his stay in your apartment. This would also include food, correct? He has to eat. Thusly he has absolutely no reason to leave. IMO drop him off at his father’s house, and then leave. Better yet, let the hospital deal with this.
I think once he is back in you home, it may become very difficult to evict him. He has a medical problem that may not permit him to fuction, for instance by holding down a job. So you may be considered as endangering his health when evicted. I would check up on this.
This is all I will say.
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Thanks, Tucson. I do disagree, but thank you for your thoughts and that you respect my disagreement.
One thing I forgot to mention -- he was released from the hospital much earlier than the initial surgery. Dropping him off at his dad's is not an option, as I don't have a car, and also, I had forgotten just how verbally abusive his dad is to him, so I couldn't be a party to subjecting anyone to that. His reason to leave is that we are on a deadline, having given written notice. He wouldn't be inviting any women over (yes, I'm sure). (Also, remember his recent surgery.)
I'll still be around quite a bit between my move out and his, because we are teaming up on having a big indoor moving sale as we are both going into situations where we don't want or need a lot of stuff. He cannot hold a job, that is true, but the situation he would be going into precludes the need. He can bring almost nothing with him, so his father has agreed to store a small amount of stuff till he reaches the point in the program when he can have it. His father also will send him there on a bus (a ride I do not envy him).
I truly do not care to stay where I am. It is not a good neighborhood, there are some very problematic neighbors and there is a constantly recurring homeless enclave just down the street. Also, in moving, I will be saving an estimated $200-300 a month, which is a lot of money to me. I can envision myself thriving there in a way I don't so much see here. Besides, they have a dog that I am already in love with.
I feel good about the course of action we are on.