I call it harassment here but I like chatting to people. It's guys who won't take no for an answer I don't like being rude to. Part of me I feel doesn't want to be a ***** or feel like one. Today I had another guy friend me (he was a mutual friend of someone else and I didn't think he would be looking for a relationship/sex) and I ended up saying not to get his hopes up, even though I don't want anything other than friendship at best (I don't even know him, is a fb friend). He has mh problems so that made it harder to be firm, but maybe I have just made things worse by not being honest and saying no way.

This has happened a few times recently and it makes me feel very uncomfortable, but I hate thinking I have upset anyone.

How do other people handle this? I like chatting to people and I tell guys I just want to be friends, but they don't listen.

Maybe it is karma because I have a friend who I annoyed by going on about liking him for long enough, but I would never have forced myself on him, I feel if I met up with any of these guys as friends I would be putting myself in a vulnerable position and it would be a mistake. But this guy has already mentioned meeting up and although I said ok as friends I think that might not be a good idea. As usual, I don't want to be nasty so I don't just say no way.

How can I tactfully refuse these guys and is there any way you can just be friends with them and they will get the message and accept it do you think, or am I just asking for trouble staying friends and even meeting up with them?

Feel free to tell me off for being an idiot, because I think I maybe do more harm than good by chatting to these guys.