Yes, I feel like, in the end, on the big things, I have done everything he wants and on the small stuff, if I think he would not agree, just go ahead and do it but keep him out of it. In a few ways my relationship with him mirrors my relationship with my mother. I also realize that because I looked up to my father, I have acted some of the same ways he has in regard to how I have handled my relationship with H. My father is attracted to strong women.

He, on the other hand, says the secret is to accept all responsibility and apologize whether he is at fault or not.