I have always had such a strong personality & drive more like a guy with a career too. I wanted a H who would match me & bring in strengths that I didn't have & marriage would be a REAL partnership. I ended up with a guy who I ended up cleaning up all the messes he made because he thought he knew everything & left a wake of disasters I always had to fix. He confided at the end of our marriage that when we got married he thought all it was necessary to do was bring in the money....I chuckled & said I was capable of doing that myself....I needed a team player not someone who fought being part of a team because my career was the same as his & required as much time & focus. The marriage was nothing but fights & even though we afforded lovely vacations I enjoyed the location, not being there with him.

Marriage & our expectations going into it can definitely define the struggles we end up with....sometimes we can work through them other times we can't. I am definitely happier wuth him out of my life & I never missed him when I left....just felt a huge sense of peace for the first time in my life.

Marriage is a complex thing but wuthoyt respect for each other it will not work or will always be difficult