Hi DazedandConfused254. No need to apologize thanks, it's good to release those feelings.

I myself have only had a handful of flings and relationships in my life, the longest lasting two years, so I can't consider myself an authority or a 'love doctor' of any sort, but those relationships came about at the same time I first began to let go of my fears, set them aside, take the bull by the horns so to speak, throw caution to the winds, etc., and just see myself as a worthy person in general. If you have good looks or a nice kind of personality then that's good. And of course, for the longer term types of relationships you speak of, it pays to have some solid inner stability and prospects as well - which is where I keep falling short, ha - I blame my poor mental health for that. But my point is this; you sound like you really don't have a problem attracting prospective dates etc., but that it's your self image, your self esteem, self criticism, fear of making a mistake[!] saying the wrong thing[!] worrying you'll be accused of sexual misconduct[!!?] that is standing in your way. I do understand that those things are real within your mind, seem like major blockages, catastrophes[!], but if you can address them, overcome them, set them aside - and a therapist will help you in those areas - then life will begin to change for the better, as it did for me those times - and those times are some of the best times I've had. It's worth it my friend. You'll be okay, trust me.