Buffy, I appreciate your responses. Months ago when I wrote those posts I could have used that advice! It's almost a year on now, and we have been divorced for several months. I got the house and most of the custody of the kids in the divorce, and she is relegated to paying too much rent for a small apartment and the man she "loved" decided to stay with his wife. My relationship with her is completely over, and I'm doing well now. We have both moved on.