Yeah I have problems with always trying to be nice and to not piss people off. Also I do struggle with boundaries a lot tbh, people take advantage sometimes.

It does feel *****y to friend someone and then hurt them, if someone has mh problems it makes it a lot harder. But I didn't intend anything more than friends anyway.. it's just letting them down gently gets to the point where I don't like saying flat out I won't ever feel the way they want me to even though I know that is the case.

The guy keeps arguing that I might change my mind at the moment, and I don't want to hurt him by saying that I know I won't. He seems a bit vulnerable and I of course didn't know that when I friended him. If I just friended people I know in real life there wouldn't be much point in doing so as I see them outside of online and can communicate with them that way. Maybe just refusing friend requests is the best thing to do.