BlossomingLen, you have been with him a long time, he was different before, you still love him, would do anything for him, but this is not the same person you got into a relationship with. I found myself while reading your post, gasping out loud at some points. He has no right to treat you like that and you deserve MUCH BETTER. Saying those comments about you? And then saying "I'm just joking"? That's emotional abuse, I hope you know. If you don't know, now you do. He does it even though he knows you don't like it. What an incredibly ****** person. My thoughts, over and over again, while reading your words were "DUMP HIM." It sounds like that it might take a bit of emotional effort (and maybe preparation) on your part to do that, but I 100% think that. Dump him. You deserve better than emotional abuse. I agree with the other posters. He is eroding your self esteem. He is not the same person anymore. And one more thing: I was in an incredibly emotionally abusive relationship and then friendship, with a man who was more like a boy. He was so degrading to me, Knew I didn't like it, but defended himself because he was "just joking." I call bs. He didn't care about my feelings. Just like this guy doesn't care about yours. And he did care, in the beginning, just like your guy. That guy is long gone out of my life now, over a year now, and this has been one of the most empowering 1.5 years of my life. I have found myself saying that to others, with a sigh of relief! It was incredibly hard for me to detach myself, but it was worth it. I hope it's not so hard for you, but that's what I believe would be in your best interest too. Good luck.