Well confused, I can say with some confidence that you are not alone in your plight. Many of us are plagued with some dillusions that demean our self worth. There are pieces of me that certainly need improvement.

But sometimes we set the bar a bit too high. Someone at some time put some silly expectations in our minds eye as to what we "should" be and well,,Often the road doesn't go that way...

So what I have done a few times in my life is start with a list of what it is about me that I "like"...started small you know.

I stayed away purposely from the things I didn't like...larger list you know.

I reviewed this list quite often and soon found I was missing some things..sometimes small things like simply smiling at someone who seemed to need it. My list kept growing...

One day,,,awhile down the road,,I got used to some of these things about me and then awhile later,,I found that there were a few of these aspects I could actually love.

Then one day,,I decided to make a list of what I didn't like about myself. There were some items on this list for sure,,,but not one of them stopped me from loving myself for what I am.

Sometimes we are far harder on ourselves than we would be anyone else. That is a shame because we are far more intimate with ourselves than anyone and what a wonderfull place to start...by finding that with all we know about ouraleves,,,we are loveable.

Be well,

Lenny