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Originally Posted by Arbie
I'm a little puzzled by this anger and the accusations.
I cited two men I knew very well who had high IQ's and also had personality disorders. I didn't say that one necessarily went along with the other. I also cited myself, having similar difficulties.I postulated that maybe the lack of social skills was caused by people who mock and minimize when we do something well, telling us it doesn't count because we're not so good at something else that's "cooler."
And for this I'm accused of being unsupportive and trying to make people with high IQ's feel worse about it? Where did you get that I'm saying ALL people with high IQ's have personality disorders?
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First of all, I didn't accuse you of anything. I didn't quote you or direct my comment at you. But, in regards to your question, the OP's post is about whether or not YOU feel ashamed of being smart, not about people you know and their difficulties with having a high IQ and social awkwardness.
I find it off-topic and invalidating as this seems to me to be a request for support from someone who is made to feel ashamed of being smart, which I can completely identify with.
When we start honing in on people who are smart having social awkwardness or anxiety, well, to me, that has little do with being ashamed of being smart. No one should be made to feel ashamed for being smart or good at something. Equating their intelligence with social issues is besides the point. As Eskie mentioned, she has known people who are highly intelligent who are great in social endeavors and then people who are smart who are not good socially. It's besides the point and besides the post.