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Originally Posted by WhatsNextNow
She didn't ' lead him on '. That is very common and dangerous talk. It's saying that if a woman or girl does xyz, then she should accept that the man or boy wants abc because of it. It says that if bad things happen, she ' should have known it would; that she has only herself to blame. It's as old as time.
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it says nothing of the sort. nor did I at any point imply that
what he was behaving in an acceptable manner. Truth be told your statement is at best an exaggeration of what I said. If you knew me at all you'd realize that I am in no way someone that thinks in a manner that states if a woman behaves a certain way to a male that they have a right to anything. I stated that it's not at all surprising that he got the impression there was a thing. that is entirety of my point.
it seems that the whole of the responses glossed over that side of things which is why I was going out of my way to point it out.
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S4ndm4n2006, you mentioned only the holding hands, and none of the scary and awful s**t he was doing. Did you gloss over all that ?
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I mentioned MORE than holding hands. In most cases a female in my experience does not typically hold a non-related male's hand outside of situations calling for it (group, church, etc ). Add onto that fact that she mentioned sleeping more than once with him and holding his hand at the time. I'm not sure what world you come from but in the one I live in, that's not something platonic friends typically do.. and before you add that it does happen, I ask you to please note I said TYPICALLY. most of the people I know would think there was something going on.
And no, I didn't gloss over it. It is not acceptable to do or say the things he is doing and saying. I agree with the people who state this guy should be blocked and she needs to now get as far away as possible.
But in the end my point of what I said I stand by.