i am a female & I learned very young that when we allow certain behaviors in friendship relationships thatbwe don't want to be anything more than friendships, there is a goid chance that the other person may in the long run take it the wrong way & allow their emotions to go beyond just wanting it to be friendship.

We as women have to be responsible with the choices we make. Knowing that there can possibly be consequenses that we don't want to deal with or like means we have to be aware of the behaviors on our own part that may have encouraged them to think there was more to the relationship than what we wanted.

When behaviors & what we say are in contradiction with each other it CAN leave a very immature other person wondering & not capable of interpreting the situation correctly.

Both are responsible in situations like this. To refuse any responsibility creates a non-learning situation for future reference in life.....if you don't want a guy to be more than a friend then don't do things that will show an emotional connection beyond the friendship level & hold those boundaries solid.

It took me awhile growing up to get this concept. It was a learning experience but I had to learn to not do the things that might come across to those guys as something they might consider as encouraging more than friendship.

If I don't do anything that might encourage their feelings then ALL the responsibility is on them if they choose to feel that way.