Hello PC members,

Not sure if this is the right forum for this, but I recently got engaged and we're trying to figure out wedding plans. His parents are very ill and live in FL and his brother and family live in California. We live in MA, my family is in MA and all our friends are in MA.

We've talked about eloping and having a big party for family and then separately, with our friends. Our friends and family won't mix well, so we want to keep them separated.

We've also talked about having a small family wedding in FL, where his sick parents live, and asking all our family to fly, and then having a big bash with all our friends afterwards.

IF we eloped, we may have to have two parties -- one for family, and one for friends. For the family party, we have no idea how we would manage it, given everyone is dispersed across the country. Friends are easy -- most are here in MA.

So what do we do?? Is it best to plan a family wedding in FL so all family members can attend? Thing is, we have NO idea how it would be paid for -- most likely, by ourselves, and we don't have much. We kind of just want to elope, just he and I though. It's very romantic, and we both like the idea.

So... hmmm.. what do you all think?

Thanks!