It’s a combination of our anniversary & I tried to get him something very different. Unusual. And I got the same thing, again for an anniversary & Xmas. He spent very little money & thought & I did the exact opposite.

When I say something he uses this “puppy dog” tactic of having HIS feelings being hurt. Not mine. I’m being the mean person here; he’s being all thoughtful! But is he? All he’d really have to do is pull out some of my favorite workout pants & look at the dam tag! Is that so difficult? At least he’d be buying me something I could try on. Instead I feel he looks at the price tag. And in his head I think he hears, “anniversary + gift= good job”.
But to me there was no thought put into it. Nothing was even wrapped & price tags still on them, even hangers still on them! It was just plopped on a table & my kids were there & im supposed to smile & be all happy! I mean how am I supposed to see this, that in his eyes I’m valuable or worth having as a wife? I spent over $120 on his gift & he didn’t open it. So I’m upset over that too.

He sees what he wants to see. When I try to explain how I feel or what I see or my thoughts & emotions he gets angry & tells me, “I think too much!” Waves me off.

How absolutely degrading is that to a partner of 24 yrs!

Maybe I’m just making too big of a deal over this I guess. Obviously it bothers me & not him.