We didn’t want to do anything.

Second marriage for both and we both have adult kids. We also both had big first weddings so we did absolutely nothing this time. No wedding guests and no parties. Both families live all over the country and some overseas. Too much work. We got married in a court house in a neighboring state that doesn’t require witnesses. Two of us. That was it.

But we did have nice honeymoon, we left there the next morning. Wasn’t long trip but it was great. The end. Some people looked at us strange why didn’t we do anything. We just didn’t care.

But we had professional photo shoot before the wedding. Dressed up, rings, flowers and nice park. Pictures are awesome and they do look like actual wedding in a park minus my dress wasn’t white of course and no guests. So we have wedding pictures so to speak

Since we did nothing at all we also kind got no gifts which was expected and we wanted nothing. I guess people were mad we did nothing lol. Well my parents gave us something (money), my ex-husband gave us substantial sum (yeah we are like that), my aunt and one of my friends gave us gift cards. I don’t think we got anything else. Oh my daughter got us something but it wasn’t formal wedding gift. Just something she always gets us when she visits or at holidays.

So I have no advice. Just that none of it’s important. Being in a second marriage and almost decade long live in relationship in between two marriages, ceremonies do not matter at all. Do whatever you feel like.

Oh I just remember I asked my therapist if it’s ok not to do formal wedding with guests or reception as people might get mad. She said “so what? They’ll get over it”. Ha