Thank you, Divine and WishfulThinker!

Food for thought, for sure!!

It's his second marriage and my first. Since it's my first and hopefully ONLY wedding, I'd love for it to still be special and memorable for years to come. I know every anniversary I'd like to be able to reflect back on an enjoyable wedding or at least a celebratory party that was special to us.

I am not one who likes to be the center of attention though either. A small family wedding would suit me just fine.

I think the biggest issue is finances. I don't know if my parents can or would contribute. I feel like I'm almost too old to ask them to help -- plus, they've helped me financially over the years with many big expenses, so I feel guilty for even bringing it up.

So with that in mind, we may have to just elope. I really don't know how a wedding will be paid for.