My H and I had something very small. I am not a bells and whistles person so we had a small private ceremony then afterwords a small reception with just our closest friends and family. I didn’t have the issue of his parents and my parents living far away from each other though. Everyone is local. However it is your day and you should do
It exactly how you want without having anything influence your decision. Weather you do something big or small..you will remember it for sure.