Are you in therapy for yourself? Is he open to couples therapy?

Honestly, it sounds like a much bigger issue than just the clothes. I mean, it sounds like he won't even listen to you or have a conversation about it, right? That's... not normal.

I'm not married, so I don't have any real authority here. But, when I have issues like this with family or friends, I try to think of a) how I would react and b) how I'd want a good friend to react to me.

If I had a spouse or significant other, and I constantly bought them clothes that they couldn't wear or didn't like, and they specifically told me that they were kind of picky and preferred to not receive clothes as a gift - I'd respect that. I might feel a little sad or embarrassed to think that I'd been picking out bad gifts, but once they told me, I'd stop buying them clothes! Because the whole point of buying a gift for someone is to do something nice for them, not to make them miserable.

If I had an issue with a friend buying me clothes that didn't fit, and I talked to them, I'd expect them to stop. It's not hard... you're not asking for anything that takes extraordinary effort on his part.

I get how it could be difficult to hear (on his part) or frustrating, or whatever, but at the end of the day, he needs to be able to have a conversation about that, like a mature adult. That's where couples therapy (to work on how you both communicate) would come in... so you can both understand what you need from each other, and what you're each missing.

Maybe you tell him that's what you want for your next birthday/holiday/etc - for him to join you for a session?

Anyway, I'm sorry - it does sound crazymaking to me. I totally get why you're questioning how he sees you or whether he values you. I'd (personally) rather have someone that listens to me, respects me, and takes my point of view into consideration any day over someone that buys stuff (even nice, fancy stuff). But again, I think that might be a "love language" thing - maybe?

*hugs*