As an addict myself, been clean since 8/23/1999, I will tell you that there is NOTHING and I do mean NOTHING, that you and your Mom can do for your brother. NOTHING. HE has to reach his bottom on his own. If you continue to assist him, you are only enabling him to continue down the path he's on. This was the only thing that worked for me. My family had to basically disown me. When I finally got clean and sober, I heard a comedian at an NA convention that told us not to give money to homeless ppl because "it keeps us out there longer". True recovery will never stick unless HE wants it and HE has to do the work to get there. Take care of yourselves first and foremost. I hope I wasn't too harsh.