Eeek! I can see how that can be scary. I would definitely speak to a therapist who has experience with what you are dealing with.

For me, I rarely have violent urges but I do have other compulsions. What has been helpful for me is to create a plan of things I can do when I am having a flashback. I always try to have any flashback tools with me in case I have one. For example, for me, I find aromatherapy helpful so I always have essential oils with me. I also often use a mantra or self-affirming statement. It could be something like, "This is just a flashback." or "I am safe." It has also been important for me to recognize that I'm having a flashback as soon as possible. This way I can immediately take steps to process through it so that it doesn't escalate. Practicing mindfulness has helped with this. I used to fight against the flashbacks, but the first time I tried to allow the flashback to happen, and to observe what was happening to me mindfully, it was so helpful. It was actually a turning point in my healing journey. Now when I do sense that I'm being triggered, let's say by a conversation I'm having with my husband, I know that it is not constructive for me to try to talk things out with him while I'm having a flashback. I will tell him, "I am having a flashback. I need to go process this on my own." I dismiss myself, go to a room by myself and use my flashback management tools. This could include breathing exercises, yoga, aromatherapy, crying it out, or wrapping myself tightly in a blanket.

For you, since you are going into a fight state, it might be helpful for you to do something physical - go for a run, punch a pillow, etc. I'm not really sure because my flashbacks are different in nature. Another thing that popped into my head so I'll just go with it - some people try to use a different part of their brain when they are having a flashback by doing some kind of mentally stimulating exercise. So for example, you could count backwards from ten, look around the room and try to find 5 objects of a specific color or some variation of one of those. If you get a book about Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, they have a lot of little tricks like this.