Amazing! Great idea! Ask the best “experts” – but of course not any clients! Who could possibly imagine that a client/patient might have anything useful/help to offer.

Also loved the guy in the video who said “if you have an excessively differentiated default mode” then if something goes wrong, it’s all about the other person, always his/her fault, unless the person is “masochistic” in which case it’s all about them, how bad they are, like in a Woody Allen movie.

As someone who spent a long time in therapy, blaming myself, I find that extremely insulting and condescending. Or perhaps mostly, inexcusably ignorant. Do therapists really think that clients don’t make observations like this themselves, even when we don't know what to do about it, or how to see and feel things differently?