Hello,

Originally I had signed up to seek help and support from an online community as was coping poorly and having numerous breakdowns. I have since recovered but have been able to deal with my demons appropriately.

I’m now here to seek advice on how to help support my husband. He hates his job, he detests the people he works with. He far surpasses everyone, he has great work ethic, troubleshooting skills, really gives it his all, etc. Yet he gets passed for promotions - the guys who get them don’t finish nearly as many projects to the caliber my husband does. People (including management) often take credit for his work. This has been a huge struggle for my husband as he feels he’s not getting what he is worth. He has led a hard life, was homeless in his teenage years, his parents never supported or helped him in any way. His older siblings emotionally abused and bullied him. He blames his parents for not being able to reach his full potential (his parents favored his other siblings). It’s a bad time to find new jobs so he’s stuck but it is costing him his sanity.

I’m trying to be supportive but I’m struggling because he is so consumed by everything, has a lot of anxiety and depression with his job and family. He rarely has something positive to say and I feel as if I can’t say anything to help or change the situation. I’m not sure what else to do. He has sought help, practices mindful meditation but none of it really works. Any advice or feedback would be appreciated. I just feel helpless and want to do more to help my husband.

Thank you for reading and listening.