Hello, so background story, my parents abused my sister and i and in turn i abused my sister. I said i won't do it again but yesterday i didn't feel well and i told her let's go out to eat even though i was not sure i wanted it to eat. I said it because she didn't want to go out at first but i didn't want to go out by myself. That's manipulation. But the problem is that i was very negative so she started feeling bad and said i don't understand why you are feeling like this. I have been abused more than you and here i am feeling better. Try and be positive and stop focusing on the negative. I feel like everyone reacts to abuse differently. Just because someone suffered more doesn't mean you have to be okay. So i feel like she shouldn't have said this but i was the one who made her feel bad so i can't blame her. Why am i so fixated on what she said? I feel like she hurt me with saying that but she wanted me to be positive and i hurt her first. Why can't i let go of this?