OK so lessons I’ve learned from T: if I’m out and ask H if he wants me to come home now or if it’s OK if I stay out for a bit, I take him at his word. Especially when I’ve explicitly offered “I’m totally good coming home right now (or stopping at grocery store first), just let me know.” Like if he gives me a “whatever you feel like doing,” that’s on him, not me. Right? I can’t deal with passive-aggressive BS anymore. I offered, he said he didn’t care, I’m taking him at his word.