How frustrating! Might I suggest something?

There's this woman named Alison Armstrong. She does a lot of lectures and have studied men for years. She does these lectures on the differences between men and women and how to understand where each other is coming from. There's a difference in the way we're wired and the way we hear things. He probably just sees it as how he's kind and thoughtful and his gestures are unappreciated.

My SO and I are listening to one together. After each section we'll pause and talk about it. Some of the material doesn't pertain to us but there are others where we both go, "Ohhhh!" and "AHA!"