This insight you are having, about how you communicate your struggles to your H, is VERY important. I hope you can find a way to communicate more openly. I also hope he will listen to you.
About memory, I had mentioned stress. In looking at your med list, I'd also suspect at least some of these meds cause some cognitive fog. I am very aware of all of the meds you have listed and a combination thereof would do one heck of a number on me... and likely upon anyone.
I am not suggesting you don't need your meds. I am just making an observation based upon my own experience with lots of the same meds/med combos. I honestly do not think it's realistic to expect zero cognitive impairment with this med list.
I do understand things are getting worse lately. Again, I strongly feel the cognitive difficulties are multifactorial.
I hope you can sleep well and can start to regroup soon.

WC