I’m usually pretty honest about it; sometimes I have really serious suicidal thoughts and don’t tell him until it’s already over with, but that’s only because I forget to tell him the next couple of times I see him. There have also been a few times that I’ve said I could be safe when I knew I couldn’t, but at those times I always emailed him afterward to tell him the truth so that we could come up with a plan to keep me safe.