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Old Sep 24, 2018, 04:10 AM
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Originally Posted by RaineD View Post
What prompted you to sign up? Was it a spur of the moment thing, or have you been playing with the idea for a while? I'm just curious because this seemed to have come out of nowhere? Is it related to your attempt to have no contact between sessions?
My sister texted me a picture a Fireman from NY sent her of the floods in NC as the NY firemen went down to assist. She is separated from her husband so I was kind of taken about wondering how she was talking to a NY Fireman. She said she met him on Adult Friend Finders. Ok I said, I want that kind of connection and attention and I will sign up and stick my toes in the water. I was flooded with messages from tons of men and had to weed them out. It was easy to weed them out. My criteria was:
1. If your profile picture is your penis in your hand you are out.
2 If your user name is something like "Hardcockforyou" you are out.
3. If your first message to me is, "Hey you are hot want to screw?" you are out.

So one stood out because he sent a normal picture of him hiking and talked about his similar situation and was looking to just connect and chat online. It felt safe and I like the attention.

Really it just happened so fast.

Since starting to talk with him almost constantly, I have not even thought about T, or yearned for him, or have been depressed or any other mental health issues I had to deal with. This has been like a drug and I feel so charged I can sleep.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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