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Old Sep 24, 2018, 07:02 AM
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Originally Posted by Xynesthesia View Post
You say your therapist is nice but I wonder if her emotionality (a T crying in session regularly sounds like a lot) is counterproductive and distracts from experiencing and expressing your feelings? It's a bit like she is doing what you would like to and you are doing what she is supposed to (controlling your emotions). Would it be useful to talk with her about what you said here and ask her to be less reactive? You say it does not bother you but maybe it is part of why you can't let go more easily, the focus is too much on her.

I was thinking this as well. My ex-T used to tear up at times, but I don't think I could have dealt with her actually crying regularly. You say that you feel bad that you upset her all the time--could this be holding you back? And maybe it's partly keeping you from crying, because you feel that will upset her more? I agree that you should talk to her about the effect that her crying has on you.
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