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Originally Posted by DP_2017
Wow I feel like a terrible human. I say I don't care and whatever often. I never mean them with any kind of anger or annoyance. It's just me being very indecisive for one and also, growing up, my parents and siblings etc always said these things to each other, to me, its normal.
My former best friend and I used to do that all the time "What movie do you wanna see?" "I don't know, whatever" Then we would kinda do that back and forth a bit and eventually are on it. I've never thought that much into those two phrases to see them as so negative.
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You aren't a terrible human! And fwiw, I probably wouldn't have been bothered by an "I don't care" or "whatever" in the example you gave, depending on the tone. The Artie and LT examples are quite different. The alternative responses manatee and I mentioned demonstrate that these are different situations. You couldn't have said "sure," "ok," or "sounds good." You could maybe have said "I don't know," but I don't think it's a big deal. In your situation, you are talking about a fun activity you and a friend are going to do, so there is an implicit assumption that you are not negatively inclined. If your tone is disinterested and irritated, it might appear that you are passive aggressively trying to say you don't want to go, but otherwise, I see nothing wrong with what you said. On the other hand, if you and your friend were roommates, and she told you she was going to the store, and you responded with, "I don't care," or "whatever," I would consider that rude.