I did have to deal with boundary changes, it was my fault though and I've had to accept that punishment.

At first, the no email felt like a terrible experience and maybe it was but it's become positive I think. I've started to write down things and discuss in person, it's lead to better conversations between us and being able to understand each other. I also feel much more secure in our relationship. I don't need reassurance or anything anymore. I rarely even have any urge to contact.

Before the incident when I messed up, he was fantastic about it though, all positive. He went out of his way a lot for me, especially in dealing with the death I had last year. I'm still ALLOWED to email (he wont reply) and allowed to text (we check in every Fri) I know he has no limits on that stuff and he wont get mad but again, I haven't felt a need to do it. So I guess sometimes a "negative" incident can become positive.