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Sep 24, 2018 at 05:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Girl from Europe
Thank You once again for Your response. I've bene thinking about it and maybe all of the things I've written seem so exagerated, because I putted all of the "strange" situations together - but we have plenty of "normal" sessions also, and I really still think that he is a good specialist who happened to help me a still is helping me a lot... You have to understand that I am not able to quit now, because I need therapy and I need his support exactly in the same way as You needed it during Your therapies. And I really trust that he is trying to help me. I now things he is saying or doing sometimes aren't politically correct, but I get where does it come from, because we really like each other and get each other a lot - it's not because I have maritial problems that I think so, it really is like that. And even if I met him in some other place, not as a therapist and a patient, I believe it would be like that. But we are in a therapy so I have to live with it and try not to focus on a tensione between us, but on a help he is offering me, mostly how to be myself at my home and in my marriage that is really difficult - not because of him, because it is like that from The beginning....
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It's hard when you are having issues with your partner and your marriage. If your therapist is the only person you can talk to, I think it intensifies the relationship massively.
You know he's crossing boundaries, otherwise you wouldn't have asked here. I can understand that it might feel nice at the moment but the situation might cause problems further on down the line. What concerns me is that either he doesn't have a good understanding of what his role is in your life and what his job is (maintaining boundaries is a big part) or he is consciously being unethical and possibly even grooming you. A bit of flirting is ok but your situation seems to be developing into more than that. Not ending the session until you got up to go is a big red flag. What ever is happening, he's not being very honest about it.
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