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Originally Posted by cklasik
One of my higher-ranked colleagues has recently made a series of remarks that felt rather 'not too neutral'.
1. 'you are going to be buggered around everywhere so why not go where they pay most'
2. I know of director; he is also gay...
3. You will be querried about this very often.
I might be too suspicious but a this combination is rather too obvious. Or am I reading too much into casual talk?
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Hi, on reading them I did not automatically think they were abusive but the context in which they would said could potentially make a difference.
When someone talks about being buggered around - they could just mean being messed around.
When talking about a director - and saying he is also gay, they could be offering additional information about him, because when people share sometimes they share too much.
When saying 'you will be queried about this very often' - was it straight after the previous remarks?? What was said before and after? I am not clear how it relates.
I think you could possibly be reading too much into it but difficult to tell without knowing the person or being there. Sometimes it can helpful to let situations like that go over your head, and I'd perhaps be more careful about being with or sharing with that person if I really thought it was meant abusively. If there was an opportunity later, I might try to check it out a little more by observing how they were with me again or with others.