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Originally Posted by cklasik
One of my higher-ranked colleagues has recently made a series of remarks that felt rather 'not too neutral'.
1. 'you are going to be buggered around everywhere so why not go where they pay most'
2. I know of director; he is also gay...
3. You will be querried about this very often.
I might be too suspicious but a this combination is rather too obvious. Or am I reading too much into casual talk?
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no I dont perceive these as abusive. to me its just like saying
yea theres always going to be someone somewhere that doesnt like you , you might as well just hang out with those you get the most enjoyment with being around.
I have a friend that is gay and .... I know my boss, doctor, laywer is gay or a lesbian...
I know that lady and she is gay (happy go lucky kind of person or a lesbian.
after telling someone that I was a lesbian they told me if I disclosed it to a mutual friend they would ask me lots of questions.
in other words to me these are all common ordinary statements people do say in common ordinary conversations. of course Im in the USA and you are in the UK so these statements may mean other things where you are. my suggestion is talk with your or a treatment provider who can tell you if these were abusive in your location with in the context of how and when and about what, those statements were said.