And the magic is lost.Freds cousin thought she was a psychiatrist/chologist too. I was only good at sport and art because I must be autistic. I would only say artistic more like, to counteract the accusation. And I only said unique, to Freds cousin because my parents told my other friends parents that I did not have a mind of my own when they were drinking at the pub to sound hard. I did not think there was anything unique about me. Its the type of thing you say to a friend and they normally say : thank god there is only one you. But not my clan. The pair would say I had no spine or back bone, when I would rather keep the peace than be right and I would go along with someone's view just to keep them happy. You have hold your own, not be a door mat. They would say this when drinking in the safety of their own homes or out as pals. But in the real world they were not advocates of their own advice.