Thanks. Yes, I think itīs not just longing or grief as part of this stems from a kind of love towards her, not in a sexual way, bot more towards a mother or another close person. I had very similar feelings towards my very first T who I grieved for a very long time.
If it was only the therapeutic work itself, I hadnīt felt this way. Itīs not just about transference either but a mix I think. Itīs impossible to say what is what in this but I know I have developed those feelings before towards a therapist.
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Originally Posted by zoiecat
Transference or not, what you are feeling is grief and loss of a relationship. I would treat it the same as a break up with a significant other or the death of a loved one.
Allow yourself time to feel the emotions and heal from the pain. Also try to remember and focus on the positive and good you received from the relationship.
If it is truly transference and you are projecting feelings from someone in your past onto your T, you may want to consider seeing a new T to work through your issues from the past.
In DBT we use a skill called Radical Acceptance. This would be a case where Radical Acceptance is needed to accept the fact that the relationship is over. At the same time it is important to work on self soothing skills.
I wish you the best.
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