Thanks. I think thereīs always transference even if that doesnīt always stem from a point in life that was painful. I did some transference work, or at least one of my former therapists tried to do such work with me, and I just said to her that there is no such traumatic events that we need to just go on and on in circles to find something.
Still there is transference to some extent as my feelings towards my T, a kind of love, isnīt about her as a person as much as what feelings her way of being creates in me. I of course like her as a person, or those parts I see of her, but if she was my colleague or similar I wouldnīt feel such "love" and longing for her.
Quote:
Originally Posted by here today
Transference, as I understand it and as one definition on the internet puts it, is:
So, in the service of "knowing yourself" and "getting in touch" with your feelings, it could be a "good" thing that you felt those feelings. The challenge is, though, to see if you can remember anything like them from your childhood, and to fully feel and process them and what they meant to you at the time.
However, this process -- my experience of it, anyway -- can be extremely challenging and generate a lot of anxiety and need for support of some sort to replace the support that is now missing from the therapist and, ultimately, at least as far as theory goes, from one's childhood.
Doesn't sound like the psychiatric nurse would be a lot of help. That's too bad, but if that's the way it is, that's the way it is.
|