I thought about somehow making this into a poll, but couldn't come up with a good structure. So I'll just post this normally.

Today at my Ts office, I noticed how other clients talk to their Ts (couldn't really make out what they were saying, but that's not important). They seemed to talk a lot, back and forth, like in a real conversation. Comparing this to my own experience, I wonder a few things:

1) how much do you talk compared to your T?

I'd say for me this is almost equal. Of the time we spend talking, it's about 50/50, though I usually feel my T has a much more elaborate way of speaking, knows how to pack a lot of information into a small set of words, while I try to explain much less in the same time.

2) How much time do you spend not talking at all?

From the people I could hear, I couldn't hear there ever being just silence. Or if so, just for a short while. In my sessions, there's usually times where we are silent for minutes at least. Usually those are filled with me crying and sobbing. It's not like there's just nothing going on, but there's no talking. I cry and try to feel my emotions as well as manage them. And T sits there with me and makes me feel like I'm not a complete nutcase for crying so much. I'd say for a random session about 40% of the time is spent not talking at all. There's sessions that are almost 100% talking, but most sessions are about 40% not talking, with some being even higher, somewhere in the 60s or so.