I'd base it on my life, what is more important for what I have happening. Do I really need to hear from someone with compassion? Or do I need to be more sociable for the things, like I said I have going on in my life. Personally, a journey about 7 yrs in I make sure that I get to what I have to say alot of times it is about being a saleman. I have to make sure that I'm assertive since my alters like to practices a form of non socializing. Getting to the point of what is there is how I gauge what is needed for the long run. Basically though the curiousness wears off about someone and things you learn in waiting room with time and study.