hon I am sorry you are going thru this. a piece of advise on that bladder..do not let them do the sling procedure! it won't stay. there is another procedure they do called mmk I believe it is. they stitch the bladder to the pelvic bone. I had both done so I speak this from experience. I too would opt for the hysto. my daughter has the hpv and has such a hard time with it. my thoughts and prayers are with you hon.