These are big triggers for me, too. I hate that whole "you can't love yourself if you don't love yourself first" statement. It sounds very victim blaming, if that makes sense. It just makes people who have depression feel guilty, you're right. I've always felt like it was my fault that I haven't been able to find someone who loves me in the way I would like. I also get upset when people get things way easier than I (and others I care about) have (or am still trying to get). I think, "I fight so hard so how come I don't get the same results?" I hear you. I really do.


I agree with that 100%. Many people just say the first thing that comes out of their mouth, and usually it's something that's stereotypical, something that everyone says. I think this comes from a lack of empathy and/or emotional capacity. I think the same thing. If you don't know what to say, don't say
anything at all or just straight up say, "I don't know what to say but I genuinely am here for you". I wish you all the best.