no I dont perceive these as abusive. to me its just like saying

yea theres always going to be someone somewhere that doesnt like you , you might as well just hang out with those you get the most enjoyment with being around.

I have a friend that is gay and .... I know my boss, doctor, laywer is gay or a lesbian...

I know that lady and she is gay (happy go lucky kind of person or a lesbian.

after telling someone that I was a lesbian they told me if I disclosed it to a mutual friend they would ask me lots of questions.

in other words to me these are all common ordinary statements people do say in common ordinary conversations. of course Im in the USA and you are in the UK so these statements may mean other things where you are. my suggestion is talk with your or a treatment provider who can tell you if these were abusive in your location with in the context of how and when and about what, those statements were said.