My T is 8 years younger than me, but emotionally he is much older. I am so dependent on him. He is a father to me. He lets me have it when I need it. He shows me a father doesn't have to be abusive to teach. He shows he cares about me too. He tells me if I lie to him he would be disappointed. He makes me feel so good.

The transference is there, you call him whatever you want.