Sorry it's taken so long to reply. It wouldn't let me and I have had to have a conversation with a mod to allow me to post again (I think because I posted a bunch of times in the welcome thread and it said I had exceeded the maximum).

Thanks for replying. Lonesome Tonight - we only hug and thank you for clarifying yes he suggested me in the role of the abuser.

I know he isn't grooming me or anything like that. Xynesthesia- what you said about the bad suggestion is what I am really wondering. Is it a bad suggestion or an okay suggestion which I just don't like? Like, is this sort of thing a part of therapy for some people.

Feral Kitty Mom - thanks, I think that's true that my reaction is important. I will discuss that with him. I thought about the role play thing, like is this a legitimate drama therapy technique or something? No he's never suggested role play before.

Precaryous- thank you for sharing your experiences with the soft bats. You reminded me of something I had forgotten before. A long time ago he said I could throw a cushion at him but I didn't want to do that either. So I guess this is similar to that??