Filed for divorce over a week ago. My husband has been on a whirlwind roller coaster and I don't know what I can do that is still healthy for me and my kids.

The marriage has been so hard... He sunk into a deep depression, quit working, quit taking care of himself, quit trying anything... Self medicates. He's tried coming out of it, but he's angry and mean and so so negative. I just can't anymore. My kids and I need to find our way back to healthy.

I still love him. I want the best for him. But, he puts the weight of his living and surving on me. How can I get through this? What if he does hurt himself? How am I supposed to deal with that? My healthy brain knows that distance is the best thing and that I can't fix this for him, he has to. But the brain that hears him feels that this is the worst thing I can do to him. How do you get someone to live on their own? He won't see a doctor. He blames me for where he is... Any words of advice??