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mckell13 said:
I was asked yesterday why I don't show inner myself to people. I replied that I don't want them to know something that can be used against me at some point.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">McKell, I can so relate to that. I do not share sensitive information with people because I am afraid they will use it against me. That's what my mother did to me all the years I was growing up. I learned not to share with her anything that mattered so as to protect myself. Now I am trying to unlearn that. With T, I have made a lot of progress and will share with him because he is safe and trustworthy and he will not use things against me. But out in the "real world" with other people, I don't have those assurances, so I still withhold. And in fact there are people out there who will use things against me, so it kind of validates my caution. I don't know how to transfer the trust learned in therapy to the outside world. Is it possible?