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Originally Posted by golden_eve
So.... the latest:
My fiance's a big spender, a far bigger spender than me. I have to broach the subject of saving money for our honeymoon, for which we will have to pay.
At this point, we'll most likely elope, but we want an amazing honeymoon. He has a bunch of money right now from his prior divorce settlement, but it's dwindling quickly. I cannot tell him how to spend that money, but I want to ask if he'll save some of it for us, for our honeymoon.
Do I have that right? Otherwise, he won't be able to save any other funds because he doesn't have extra to save, even though he makes a decent living.
I don't know how to approach this with him. I don't want to be the only one paying for the whole honeymoon. I mean, I could save about $1000 per month, but that will take a long time to save enough, and I would prefer that some of that goes into actual savings, as well as that we split the cost of our trip.
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Do you in general have problems approaching him about things? I am a bit concerned you are even wondering how to approach it. You are engaged to be married. If you can’t approach him, it’s concerning.
Personally I’d no way no how pay for honeymoon. I am not saying he has to pay for it but I’d not pay for it all by myself unless maybe I won a lottery or was filthy rich lol.
If he is not saving or unable to save then how is he expecting to go on this fancy honeymoon? On your dime? Nope. Not happening. But it’s just me. Not treating able bodied men to vacations especially since you haven’t even been together that long!. You have experience with supporting men. Don’t do it.
Now I can relate to being a spender. And I also understand not being able to save. But it also means that perhaps you two can’t go to fancy honeymoon far away and should plan great honeymoon somewhere else/shorter/cheaper. It can still be great memory. Then you can go to fancy longer vacation next year or whoever